Alyson Stoner Opens Up About Her Sexuality And Falling In Love With A Woman

Alyson Stoner just wrote a powerful, honest and raw personal essay on Teen Vogue about how she fell in love with a woman and discovered her true self and sexuality.

The story begins with Alyson talking about how a friend invited her to a dance class, and how in this class she found herself having strong emotions circulating around her dance instructor.

“Do it. Just say something. No, don’t. Don’t stare. Side-hug and leave. No. Ask for her number. Why are you panicking? She’s just a girl. “- Alyson

Alyson and her dance instructor then began a friendship that ended up developing into a romance. From good morning texts, to having dinner.

“Then we vented and supported each other. Then cuddled. Then kissed and kissed some more. OK, we were in a relationship. I fell in love with a woman.” – Alyson 

After this Alyson began digging deeper into her soul to try to figure out why she was having feelings for a woman. She talks about struggling with the misconceptions of LGBTQ.

“At the time, I thought, Maybe it’s because I moved away from my father as a child and didn’t have typical male guidance in my life. Maybe it’s because I’ve experienced abuse from men and therefore I’m scared of intimacy with them (and in general). Maybe it’s because open sexuality is prevalent in my artistic community and I subconsciously just want to fit in. Maybe I actually want to be her, and I’m mistaking idolization for romance. Anything besides being gay, please!” – Alyson 



Alyson has been working in the industry since the age of six. She is a former Disney star, appeared on Missy Elliot’s “Work It” music video, and appeared in movies such as Step Up and  Cheaper by the Dozen.

Therefore, she also shares what she was told by people in the industry. They warned her that her career would be ruined and that she wouldn’t book anymore work and how she’d be put in a dangerous situation. Alyson also mentions that she has received death threats because of her sexuality.

“I, Alyson, am attracted to men, women, and people who identify in other ways. I can love people of every gender identity and expression. It is the soul that captivates me. It is the love we can build and the goodness we can contribute to the world by supporting each other’s best journeys.” – Alyson 

Alyson closes her essay by telling people who are also struggling with their sexuality, gender identity or anything in that realm that support is out there and to always love themselves no matter what.

 “Dare to be yourself anyway.”


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